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Happy Thanksgiving!!!!What Are You Thankful For?

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on November 21, 2011 by holychick

As my favorite holiday season is fast approaching (can’t believe how quickly the year has gone by) I want to take some time out to reflect on the goodness of God in my life. Just let me warn you I am going to get somewhat personal in this post I hope you don’t mind. A little transparency is good sometimes and hopefully I can encourage someone along the way. So here goes…

I started this year hopeful that my season of change had finally made its arrival. I had been unemployed for over a year and I’m not gonna front I was depressed. The t-shirt business I started, Manifestation Apparel was doing well, but business wasn’t consistent. After applying to literally hundreds of jobs and receiving no response I was discouraged. In February I got a call from someone in my church who I am not close to at all requesting t-shirts. To make a long story short, she never followed through on the purchase, but she did refer me to a friend of hers. Well her friend liked my work so much that she referred me to her friend, who referred me to someone else and the pattern of referrals continues to today!

I learned an important lesson from that experience Be Open. When God wants to bless you He can use anybody.  The young lady who made the initial referral is by no means a friend of mine and when she approached me it would have been easy for me to dismiss her and miss my opportunity, but thank God I didn’t. Never count anybody out because you never know who your God-given helper will be.

As the year progressed I’ve had some ups and downs just like many people have had. In July my 18 year old cousin was brutally murdered by her step-father. She had such a bright future ahead of her and was on her way to start college, but sadly she was robbed of the chance to live out her dreams. As angry as I am about her death I am grateful to God that she was saved on baptized the year before her death. God is truly awesome!

Now its November and even though its been 2 years and 1 month since I lost by job I can truly say God has been good to me! I’ve never gone hungry not one day, all my bills are paid on time which is a true miracle because I have no source of income. My only source is God! There have been so many days where I laid in bed depressed and anxious because I didn’t know how I was going to make it. God sent help each and every time! Even though He was always there for me I couldn’t stop feeling sorry for myself. It took God taking me out of my comfort zone to show me that I didn’t have things as bad as I thought. There were people out there who were going through much worse. For the first time in October I went to the soup kitchen my mother started over 1 year ago and I saw how appreciative the men from the shelter were to receive a hot meal. Many came back to the kitchen to express their gratitude. Here I was being a Debbie Downer for the majority of the year when I had food, a house to live in with my own room, clothing and a loving family. These men had nothing and they were coming back to say thank you to us for serving them food! I felt so low because I had been so selfish and only concerned about what I did not have that I never thanked God for what I did have. The moment I acknowledged my selfishness and began to serve the needs of others the depression that had a hold on me for so many months was lifted! I have am now seeing the goodness of God through clearer eyes. He is worthy of my praise and I want to take this opportunity to give Him thanks.

God I want to thank You for…

1. Life. Many people have not lived to see this day and You allowed me to and I am so grateful for that. Every day that we are alive is another chance God has given us and it should never be taken for granted.

2. My family. I am so grateful to God for blessing me with a loving supportive family. They have been truly awesome to me. I want to give a special shout out to my cousin who took me on a cruise this summer and even bought me clothes to wear on the trip! That is the definition of self-less love!

3. My church family. God used so many folks there to come to my rescue and I appreciate all the prayers, encouragement and monetary blessings bestowed on me.

4. My friends. When you’re doing well everyone wants to be in your company, but true friends stick with you through thick and thin! Although I’ve lost several friends in the last 2 years, God has shown me who my real friends are and has even blessed me with some new ones. I am thankful to all my friends who took the time to call me, pray with me, send job alerts, take me out to lunch and dinner and be a listening ear when I was going through.

5. Jesus and the gift of salvation. Best gift I’ve ever gotten!

We all have something we can thank God for. What are you grateful for?

 

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How Do You Know When You’ve Met The “One”?

Posted in Patiently Waiting...Sort of with tags , , , , , , , on October 30, 2011 by holychick

As a single Christian young woman, often times thoughts of the “One” crosses my mind. I wonder what he’ll look like, what his personality will be like, how will we meet etc. The only thing I know for sure is that my “One” must be unequivocally sold out for God! No exceptions, no substitutions, no half stepping and no fronting about it!

As my early 20’s are becoming a distant memory (we had some great times!), and my “One” has yet to make his appearance, I’m beginning to get the side eye from everybody! Don’t you just love the why are you still single question?

Side note: A friend of mine said that every time he goes to a wedding people ask him so when is it going to be your turn or they say you’re next! So he said the next time he goes to a funeral he’s going to go around and ask people so when is it going to be your turn or point to someone and say you’re next! LOL, he’s a hot mess.

Either way I don’t have an answer to the why I’m still single question and even if I did I still have to wait on God’s time. People don’t seem to get that and try to match me with anybody just as long as the person is single. A friend of mine even told me straight out I know you’re not going to like him, but he’s single. WHAT!!! ! Not wanting to be closed minded I ask is he a Christian? She says I don’t know, but he’s funny. Lol, thanks, but I’ll pass! I am no where near desperate so why is everyone else desperate to hook me up. Relax everybody!

This is not only my reality, but it is true for so many of my single friends, both male and female. The worse part is that when one person from the group gets blessed to change their facebook status from single to married, they act like they are now a part of an elusive secret society that only those lucky enough to have met the “One” are allowed membership. There becomes an unspoken divide between the have and the have not.

While some people become stuck on stupid once they get married, there are plenty more couples who we singles can gain wisdom from. I enjoy listening to these couples rehash how they met and talk about how they knew their spouse was the “One”. Though all the stories differ there is always one commonality, PRAYER! Marriage is life changing and too important not to include prayer. Seeking God’s guidance can make the difference between truly meeting the “One” and making “One” of the biggest mistakes of your life!

Recently I came across and article on Single Black Male discussing this very topic. It was very interesting and worth checking out so click the link and take a look at the male’s perspective on the “One”.

For all my married folks out there I would love to hear about how you knew you met the one, so feel free to leave a comment sharing your experience!

Erica Campbell of Mary Mary Discusses Her Husband’s Battle with Cancer

Posted in Celebrities, Music Videos, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on October 26, 2011 by holychick

Erica Campbell of Mary Mary recently discussed her husband’s battle with cancer in her blog on Essence. Campbell, candidly described how she felt her world fall apart the day her husband called her to say the doctors found a mass on his kidneys.

Her story was a true testament of faith and God’s power of healing.

I just want to take the time to encourage all those who are going through. Whether its cancer, unemployment, broken relationships or loss of any kind, survival is the only option. Don’t give up because God is always fighting for you. God wants to take you to your promise land so you will not, I repeat you WILL NOT die in the wilderness! Keep the faith, you will survive.

To read the full article on Essence click here

 

 

 

Want To Keep Your Family Together? Read Your Bible!!!

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on October 18, 2011 by holychick

A few days ago my friend Robert sent out a mass text about something God laid on his heart while he was in the shower (Rob takes showers?! This is news to me lol, just kidding)!

The message was simple, but profound and I decided to share it on my blog because I believe its a message for everyone. So here it is:

Many are claiming to write books on ways to keep the family together when the manual has already been written.

1. Husbands love your wives  Colossians 3:19

2. Wives submit to your husbands Colossians 3:18

3. Children obey your parents Colossians 3:20

If we abide by these three scriptures the family will be just fine.

Thank you Robert for sharing and thank you God for imparting wisdom to your people. So when you are at your wits end with loved ones, pick up your bible and find God’s solution to your problems. He will never lead you astray and instead of spending your money on a useless self help book, you can use that money to take your family out to dinner!

Style Spotlight: The Pencil Skirt

Posted in Style Spotlight with tags , , , , , on October 8, 2011 by holychick

I love fall fashion! I dress my best during this time. During the summer I’m hot and lazy so I don’t put much effort in what I wear (I should be ashamed to admit that ,but it the truth so what).  I don’t know what it is, but my fashion game be killin in the cooler weather!

If you go to a church like mine, then skirts are more a part of your wardrobe than underwear, lol (my church is conservative so women don’t wear pants in the sanctuary). Either way you don’t have to look homely to be holy. I love looking fly and fabulous, even to church! One of my favorite looks is the pencil skirt. Here a few reasons why:

1. Pencil skirts show off those lovely curves. I have fabulous God given curves and I like to show them off!  Tip: showing curves by wearing tight clothes is not a good look, its a terrible look

2. Pencil skirts allow me to look classy and modest while still looking fashionable and sassy!

3. Pencil skirts are great for church and work. If you’re on a budget, this is perfect!

4. Pencil skirts can be worn all season long. In the summer you can show off your gorgeous legs and in the winter pull out those patterned tights and you have a whole new look!

5. I love love the pencil skirt because its hot and I look hot in it!

So if you don’t already have one go get one or two or three!

For your viewing pleasure: Pencil skirts on a budget

Ann Taylor

Tweed Pencil Skirt

Pinstripe Pencil Skirt

Glazed Lace Pencil Skirt

Macys

INC International Concepts Skirt, High Waist Stretch Knit Pencil

Jones New York Skirt, Leather Pencil

Calvin Klein Skirt, Ponte Snake Print Pencil

New York & Company

Ruffle Panel City Double Stretch Pencil Skirt

Drape Front City Double Stretch Pencil Skirt

Grey Herringbone City Knit Luxe Pencil Skirt

Express

HIGH-WAIST COLOR BLOCK PENCIL SKIRT

LUSTER TWEED HIGH WAIST PENCIL SKIRT

HIGH-WAIST BUCKLE-BACK MIDI SKIRT (I know it's not a pencil but its cute)

The Limited

Houndstooth Pencil Skirt

Lace Hem Skirt

Dorinda Clark Cole Suicide Attempt!!!!!

Posted in Celebrities, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on October 7, 2011 by holychick

Wow! When I came across this story I said yeah right, but after watching the video and seeing Dorinda admit that she did in fact try to end her life, I thought Lawd Jesus!

After seeing such and accomplished woman of God (who by the way has a new cd out called  I Survived) be so transparent about being so broken and fed up with life that she was willing to commit suicide, I started to think about my own life.  Truthfully, things have not gone the way I’ve envisioned.  In fact sometimes I feel like I’m living a nightmare. Everyone says trust God, have faith, it’ll get better.  Honestly its easy to say that when things are going well for you, but when you’re in the fire you don’t WANT words of encouragement, you NEED God to step in a save you!

Watching Dorinda on the video was like an awakening for me. I was like thank you, finally someone is being honest! Folks, when you become a Christian life doesn’t suddenly get easy. People feel like Christians shouldn’t have problems because we have God. We even go so far as to look down on each other when problems do arise because we assume that the person has sinned or done something to bring about the negative circumstances. Its almost like saying you’re bad and you deserve what you’re going through.  

I will admit that I did feel like God was punishing me for something I’d done. I cried out to God asking Him to reveal what I had done so that I could make it right and I heard nothing from Him. I fasted, I prayed, I sowed seeds, I went to deliverance services, I did everything I could to get God to answer me and show me His path for my life. Still nothing. I said God am I so rotten that You refuse to talk to me? I think that was the hardest thing about going through my trial, feeling that God had turned His back on me.

So when Dorinda said she was giving up because she wasn’t hearing from God, I truly understood how she felt. For a Christian, that intimate connection with God is our lifeline. Without it you feel hopeless, its like life is not worth living. But, right when the story was about to have a tragic end God showed up and He called her name, hallelujah! God isn’t only calling Dorinda’s name, but He’s calling my name and your name. He sees you at the end of the rope and He’s saying I have a better plan for you! God didn’t save the 3 Hebrew boys from the firey furnace, He got in there with them!

Sometimes the trouble that we face is not the result of sin or disobedience or somebody doing you something. It is simply God pruning us so that we will produce more fruit (John 15:2).  Its not that He isn’t listening to us or is ignoring us, but He is working on us. The pruning process may seem long, heck I’m still going through it myself, but God’s ultimate plan is to prosper us and give us hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).

So despite what I’m going through, I’m going to stand on God’s promises and hold Him to His word. I encourage you to do the same. At the end of it all, we can look back like Dorinda and say I Survived!

10 Things A Single Person Should Do

Posted in Patiently Waiting...Sort of with tags , , , , , , , , , on October 1, 2011 by holychick

By holychick

A few weeks ago I attended a singles conference lead by Pastor Paul B. Mitchell of Changing Lives Christian Center here in Brooklyn, NY. Now I’m not one of those thirsty, desperate to get married types. I do want to get married some day, but I am waiting on God because I’ve seen too many FOOLS RUSH INto marriage and the inevitable disaster that awaits. That’s one party I don’t want an invite to.

Waiting on God to send us His best may seem like an eternity. However, there are some things that we as Christian singles should do while we wait. Pastor Mitchell did an outstanding job at highlighting the fact that people need to be content in whatever state they’re in. Singleness should not be seen as a curse, but as an opportunity to totally avail ourselves to God. Pastor Mitchell was surprisingly very real. Most pastors just shake your hand and tell you to pray thank you Captain Obvious. He  really went there and didn’t sugar coat anything! It was very refreshing to see a man tell it like it is without being critical. If anyone walked away from the conference having learnt nothing, then there’s no hope for you stick to praying for a man. I for one will be  putting this list to practice and because I’m such a nice and generous person I am attaching the notes from the conference!

 I leave you with this: Don’t settle for good enough when you can have God’s best!

MONDAY, SEPTEMBER 12TH, 2011

MIND RENEWING SINGLES MINISTRY CONFERENCE

PASTOR: PAUL B. MITCHELL

 

TEN THINGS CONCERNING SINGLE PEOPLE (GENESIS 2: 16 – 18)

  • WHEN GOD LOOKED AT ADAM, HE DIDN’T JUSE SEE A MAN, HE LOOKED AT MANKIND. HE SAID IT IS NOT GOOD FOR MAN TO BE ALONE. GOD KNOWS ALL OF YOUR PROCLIVITIES, HE KNOW ALL OF YOUR FLAWS.

 

1.      AS A SINGLE PERSON DEVELOP A DEEPER RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD (NOT TO BECOME WEIRD). YOU ARE SINGLE AND HAVE NO MAN/WOMAN TO COOK FOR. YOU ARE FREE AND AVAILABLE TO GOD. YOU ARE MORE AVAILABLE TO GOD THAN MARRIED PEOPLE. SO WHEN YOU ARE SINGLE YOU DON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON.

 

2.      SEEK TO HAVE A WHOLE LIFE AS A SINGLE PERSON. GO OUT NOW, GO TO THE GYM, GET DRESSED UP TO GO OUT NOW. DON’T WAIT UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED TO GO OUT AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE. FIND A FRIEND TO GO OUT WITH. YOU SHOULD NOT WAIT UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED TO DO THE THINGS YOU LIKE TO DO. TOO MANY SINGLES ARE WAITING AND YOU SHOULD BE PREPARING WHILE YOU ARE WAITING. YOU SHOULD BE GETTING READY NOW.

 GOD BLESSES FORWARD THINKING PEOPLE. IT IS TIME TO GET YOUR BUSINESS TOGETHER NOW BEFORE YOU MEET HIM/HER.

 RECOMMENDED BOOK TO READ:  THE LAW OF ATTRACTION.  THIS BOOK WILL TEACH YOU HOW TO BE ATTRACTIVE. LOOKS FADE. YOU SHOULD NEVER BE JEALOUS OF ANYBODY ELSE. IF YOU SEEK A WHOLE AND HEALTHY LIFE YOU WILL ATTRACT THE RIGHT PERSON.

 CARNAL SIN – DON’T BE A NEEDY PERSON. IT IS VERY UNATTRACTIVE AND YOU WILL ATTRACT AN ABUSER. THERE ARE MEN/WOMEN WHO WILL NOT DATE A HEALTHY MAN/WOMAN. WE ARE A SPIRIT BEING. SPIRITS ARE ATTRACTED TO ONE ANOTHER LIKE KIND PRODUCERS. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION IS REAL. DON’T EXPECT TO MEET SOMEONE IF YOU ARE NOT STRONG.

 

3.      DEVELOP INTEREST BEYOND WORK, HOME, SCHOOL, AND CHURCH. YOUR LIFE MUST BE BIGGER THAN THAT. WHEN YOU DEVELOP OTHER INTEREST IT MAKES YOU AND I MORE INTERESTING.

4.      EXERCISE – EVERYBODY IS NOT SUPPOSED TO BE SKINNY. DO THE BEST WITH WHAT YOU HAVE. EXERCISE YOUR MIND, EAT TO FEED, READ TO FEED YOUR MIND, EXERCISE TO FEED YOUR BODY. I PRAY TO FEED MY SPIRIT. (AIMED AT DEVELOPING THE WHOLE MAN).

 

5.      AVOID PEOPLE WHO SEEK TO CONTROL AND SILENCE YOUR PERSONALITY. THERE IS SOMETHING WONDERFUL ABOUT YOUR PERSONALITY. PEOPLE MATTER. THE NEGATIVE PEOPLE MATTER. EVIL CORRUPTS GOOD MANNERS.

 

6.      RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE’S MARRIAGE. DON’T SOW THIS INTO YOUR LIFE. IF HE/SHE IS MARRIED STAY OUT OF THEIR FACE. DON’T BE NEEDY. (JOHN 3:27) YOU WANT A SOLID PERSON IN YOUR LIFE.

 

7.      LIVE AND BUDGET WITHIN YOUR MEANS. FINANCES ARE A MAJOR CAUSE OF DIVORCE. INSTANT GRATIFICATION IS NO GOOD. RESENTMENT IS A CANCER IN ANY RELATIONSHIP.

 

8.      SET A GUARD OVER YOUR HEART. DON’T GIVE AWAY YOUR HEART. LET HIM/HER EARN YOUR HEART FOR OUT OF IT IS THE ISSUES OF LIFE.

 

9.      MANAGE YOUR APPETITE. SEX IS WONDERFUL. JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE THE FEELING FOR SEX DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE A SINNER. PRAY ABOUT IT!!!! AN APPETITE IS A NEED TO EAT. YOU NED TO BE RIGHT. SEXUALITY IS NOT WRONG, BUT YOU HAVE TO ASK GOD TO MANAGE IT. ANY APPETITE THAT IS OUT OF CONTROL IS A LUST. ALL OF OUR APPETITES MUST BE MANAGED. APPETITES ARE A POWERFUL BUSINESS.

 

10.  DON’T MAKE DECISIONS THAT COMPLICATE YOUR LIFE. IF YOU SLIP UP AND HAVE SEX PROTECT YOURSELF. YOU SHOULD NOT BE HAVING SEX AS A SINGLE PERSON. IF YOU GO OUT ON DATES DON’T PAY FOR EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING IS ABOUT BALANCE.

 

SET YOUR CRITERIA’S. DATE A MAN/WOMAN THAT LOVE AND RESPECT GOD. DON’T TRY TO MAKE WRONG RIGHT. SET PARAMETERS AND LEAVE THEM.